Enticing, thrilling and hot; would you use these words to
describe your sex life? If not, then it’s time to take a look at our guide.
You’ll soon be enjoying some sumptuous, pillow-biting sex:
Go back to school
Awkward teenagers, bells and bad food doesn’t sound romantic but reverting
back to a pupil may put the kick back into your sex life. Whether you’ve been
with your partner a few weeks, or a few years, there are always new things to
learn about what the other wants from sex. Take it in turns to play the role of
teacher and pupil. The teacher needs to take control, show the pupil what they
want and how to do it. The pupil needs to listen, comply and also remember these
frisky moves for later. Make sure you both get a go in each role and on
Have a curry
If you want hot sex then take your date for a curry. A UK study has shown
that you don’t even have to eat a curry to raise your heart rate, just thinking
of your favourite spicy dish is enough to increase both your heart and your
blood pressure to a level similar to one reached during sexual arousal. Spicy
food was also found to release endorphins, which provided extra pleasure. After
your curry, why not have a chili eating competition. A chemical found in spicy
peppers, capsaicin, stimulates nerve endings, which means your sex will feel
Sex is a hugely intimate act and requires a lot of trust. Considering this,
it’s not surprising that many people feel uncomfortable about sex. If you don’t
feel confident, don’t worry, there are a few things you can try. You could play
a new sport. Sport players have healthier relationships with their body because
they value its function, not its aesthetic value. You could also invest in some
sexy lingerie that covers areas you feel uncomfortable with. And remember,
psychologists have found that people who are considered beautiful are just as
likely to be unhappy as anyone else.
Never been touched?
Sex can become a routine; another thing to tick off your list. You do the
same moves, the same tired tricks and it all gets a little bit dull. If this
sounds familiar, stop. There are lots of new things and new places you can
touch. The thighs and knees may not be the most obvious place to begin, but they
often get overlooked and yet they are very sensitive spots. Another neglected
part of their body is the fingertips. Take their hand and rub their palms, then
pull on their fingers. Touching each other in new ways is simple, exciting and
Play a game
If foreplay has become a timed race to see who can turn off the lights, pull
off their clothes and reach the safety of the covers first then it is definitely
time you learnt how to slow down. Take a pack of cards and play a game you both
know well. The loser must remove one item of clothing. Once you have both
stripped off, continue the game, but this time the winner can choose an act
they’d like the loser to perform on them. Keep a timer close by, so the game
progresses. Playing this game will not only allow you to enjoy each other it
will also build sexual tension.
Doing bad things we shouldn’t do is a turn on. Everyone enjoys it, but only
the daredevils seem to give it a go. A fun and safe way that would allow you to
take your loving outdoors is to find a compromise. You could have sex in the
secrecy of your garden, or your balcony if it is secluded. Make sure both of you
are comfortable and take necessary accessories, such as a blanket or pillow.
Having sex outdoors will give you huge adrenalin surges, which not only make you
feel great, you’ll also perform better than normal. Be safe though; if you get
caught expect trouble.
You’re a brother, you’re a sister, you’re a wife, husband, dad or mum. When
you get under the covers though, it’s important to forget who you are during the
day. Adopting another persona in bed helps you de-stress and become sexy. There
are lots of tools or accessories you can use to help you make the transition.
You could wear a costume, a wig or even some exotic make-up. Play with different
looks until you feel comfortable. Dressing up will give you a confidence boost,
make your sex fresher and enable you to try new things with ease.